Have you ever seen how they look cool? Every hair is in place and their outfits are usually just perfect. They look so cool, like you do not even try. It is known that the person I'm talking about! They are perfect people who end up on our TV screens, while we sit and eat popcorn and drink beer, they were sipping champagne and seems to have no cares in the world!
Ok .. Stop right there. It is absolute nonsense! I was lucky enough to work with several celebrities and I can tell you from experience, they are like you and me! They fret, they sweat and they worry about small wrinkles on the forehead. They also have the luxury of having other people dress them, do their hair and makeup, manicure, pedicure their own and, pick up their supplies, and adorn them with so much praise that it's no wonder they look like they are on top of the world!
the reality behind the scenes is a little different. As a coach who was there to hand-hold a few celebrities through the acceptance speeches, award dinners and shows and personal appearances, I can tell you a thing or two about these people.
first and foremost. They are REAL. They are the real relationships in their lives such as family problems, work issues and relationship woes. Most of them worked very hard and long to get to where they are in their career. Celebrities know that some of the hardest working people I ever met in my life. They will work all day, jump red-eye back home and work all the next day.
Secondly all, they get the nerves just as bad as me. Many celebrities simply will not give the speech because they can not face the world without the script by heart. Remember Barbara Striesand? A woman with one of the most beautiful voices in the world is terrified that she would forget the words? Her nerves got the best of it and cut it his public singing career short. What is so sad about it is that her singing is God's gift to the world .. not only to her. She sings for the pleasure, of course, but listen in awe. Her voice is for the U.S. .. people. This is a lesson many celebrities know. They are grateful for their lot in life.
I remember talking to a female celebrity whose name, of course, I would never mention it. She asked me to come and watch her speak and she was terrified of being ripped apart by so many people had to appeal to their work. As I watched her, I saw a woman who put it all on the line. She had children and that they will take care of the children in the afternoon and will be until midnight doing the work. She was beautiful, but she wondered what they are thinking about her age as crept up.
When it is done ... I applauded. I said, "I'll tell you what people think about you when you see it." They were watching in amazement, the woman who has done many things with your life and still manages to be personal life. She has the courage and gall to stand up to the audience after audience to put it all out ... and they sit there wishing they could do the same. Then I gave her some encouraging words: "You do not need. You are perfect exactly as you .. they don 't change a thing." Of course I was serious and she has to move on. Fortunately for her, she went on to greater success. She just needed a little boost to her ego, and I was the right person at the right time.
I have had many celebrities call me for a simple reason. They are the nerves that creep and virtually paralyze them. With these people, I get to know them personally, so you feel comfortable with me. I am able to show them to their greatest potential and talking about how to manage your weaknesses. If you are too perfect, I would have them be more vulnerable, sharing personal stories. If you are relying on reading the speech, I stand before them and ask them questions about why they are happy for reward or event. I force them to think on their feet in an awkward position, and they go home to practice it over and over and over.
ask them to visualize their speech or event. I ask them to go there in advance, if possible, so you'll have an exact idea of what its going to look into his mind. I can create a visual for them to stand in front of 50,000 people in the arena and face them all the eyeball to eyeball. It freaks people at first, but slowly warmed to the idea that its not the people you fear, it is facing its own self that is scary.
I make them laugh ... themselves and the world. We talked about their time on stage has to be fun too .. not so serious. I give them physical exercise to calm his nerves before hand. With so many different, we enjoy our time as we prepare for the big event. Practice makes perfect, of course, so I still follow them and others before and after the concert.
I remember seeing a comedian on stage Carrottop one time when I was struck more than a dozen other times I saw him. He was doing a college show in the middle of his act, he froze on stage. Then he said to his audience, "Oh My Gosh, I just had a panic attack .. I had a panic attack on stage right now ... can you believe it?" Then he laughed and went with their routines.
I retell the story every time I work with someone who has to hide their nerves and act as if they were cool and collected professional at all times. He was completely comfortable with being uncomfortable and that is the best place that any artist can.
So the next time you're sitting on the couch and watching the awards show or event where you will see a celebrity, do not go feel sorry for myself think that all happiness and not intended for the stars. Your time will come. You'll be one on stage, and people will be watching you.
and put your best foot forward, practice, visualize, and of course .. have fun with it. If you create a fun space for your audience, they will have no choice but to enjoy their time with you!
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